Falling in love is easy. However, it is difficult to stay in love. Relationships are not a smooth ride. Couples often go through hard times that put their love to the test. In this extract, you will learn how to maintain a healthy relationship.

Do not be selfish. 

Before making a decision, ask yourself: how would it make your partner feel? Making your needs known in the relationship is essential. Likewise, it is vital to seek your partner's opinion before making a decision that would impact both parties. Your partner may not complain when you make unilateral decisions. However, such decisions will eventually lead to significant issues in the relationship. 

Trust your partner. 

Below are several ways to improve trust in the relationship:

• Always give your partner the benefit of the doubt. If there is a reason for suspicion, reasonably confront him or her.
• Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Talk to your partner about your fears, dreams and expectations.
• Be ready to compromise. If your partner is not comfortable with specific friendships or behaviours, be prepared to let them go for the well-being of the relationship.
• Learn to keep your promises. Do not make unrealistic promises; you will only get your partner's hopes high and cause unnecessary anxiety when you let him or her down.

Be quick to resolve issues. 

At an early stage, decide how you will resolve conflicts in the relationship. As a rule, the accused party should not be defensive. He or she should explain the matter at hand to the other party. Avoid dragging up past issues to justify your current behaviour. If you are in the wrong, seek forgiveness from your partner. Repeating the same mistakes over and over will only cause distrust in the relationship. Difficult issues such as cheating and financial misappropriation may need the intervention of a third party. In such cases, seek relationship counselling services from a certified counsellor. 

Make quality time. 

What are your common interests? Make the relationship thrilling by trying out new things and getting on new adventures. Take time off to go camping, fishing or on a road trip. Such activities are likely to improve the bond you have with your partner. 

Plan together. 

Set short-term and long-term goals for your relationship. Be open about your finances. However, avoid patronising your partner about how he or she should spend money. If the relationship is stable enough, consider opening a joint savings account where you make small monthly contributions.

To maintain a healthy relationship, avoid being selfish, trust your partner, be quick to resolve issues, have quality time and plan your future together. For more information, contact a relationship counselling professional.